I realise there are hundreds of wedding 'tips' floating around the internet and most of them are probably useless, but I have now earned my place in giving advice to 'brides to be' whether it is wanted or not. That’s right, so you just sit and listen because I am wed and now I can tell you, erm, well stuff, wedding stuff.
So my top wedding tips:
1. Weddings are expensive (that is just a fact, not a tip in case you were wondering) so ALWAYS negotiate on the price! I managed to get money off of pretty much everything. Of course some gave better discounts than others but it all makes a difference. Plus you get the opportunity to feel quite proud of yourself for getting that pound off! Yay!
2. Put your foot down on the things that are important to you. The photographers were my top priority and although Craig was reluctant because of the cost, on the day he conceded that I was right. He was really happy with how smoothly the photos went and with the end result, he had to admit his 'mate Dave' probably wouldn't have done such a good job!
3. Do call your Mum to say 'I don't even know if I wanted to marry him anymore’. This isn't a must do or anything but weddings are over whelming and you may need to have a little meltdown at some point. Let yourself do this if you need to, but dust yourself off after and remember why you're actually having a wedding (no not for the dress)...so that you can marry the man you love.
Our first (and only) ‘wedding war' was about the photographer and I’m not going to lie, I may have called (did call) my Mum in tears announcing the above line. To which my Mum responded with a little chuckle, she knew I was being somewhat dramatic, (only slightly though). I needed to vent a bit and once I had, I was fine and we all moved on.
4. Spend time with your Fiance. I wasn't great at doing this while I was planning our wedding, unless it was to play songs at him or ask whether we should have pink or ivory petals, or a mix of both.
He often asked when we would be spending some time together and I would promptly inform him that I was too busy planning OUR wedding - and yes it was said with a sarcastic undertone to remind him that he was doing none of the planning. You know, planning that I wanted to do and quite enjoyed doing for the most part and probably didn't really want him doing.
So try not to bark at your fiance when he dares to suggest you spend some time together and make sure that you actually do something together, which is not wedding related!
5. Following on from point 4 - Set aside time to NOT do anything wedding related. Don’t talk about it (nope not even when people ask), don’t look at pinterest while pretending to watch a film, don’t browse wedding blogs while eating dinner, don’t write in your notebook while driving to work (I mean you should probably not do this at any time but you get the picture) – I would often ‘take a break’ from wedding planning while keeping one eye on something wedding related and you truly need a proper break to keep sane.
6. Probably my best tip - Drink wine if you have trouble making a decision. (FYI- This tip can be applied to any part of decision making in life). Judge me if you must but that glass of wine (bottle) helps to relax you and concentrate the mind just that little bit more, either that or you get so drunk you don't care. And for those of you who don't drink wine? Well I really don't know what to tell you...
7. Make lists and use apps for checklists. Nothing feels better than ticking something off of that enormous to-do list!
8. Decide what is most important to you and your fiance. The dress and the photographer were most important to me so I spent extra time (and money) on those things. Craig was adamant he wanted a sit down meal and not a buffet so we made sure we included that and budgeted elsewhere.
9. Do not buy your dress a size too small! Listen to people when they tell you this! Yes you may well lose weight in time for the big day but it is also a lot of pressure to put on yourself at a time when you are probably feeling a bit strained as it is.
Also throughout the planning process everything is a celebration: found the venue, wahoo lets celebrate with cake and Prosecco...found the dress, wahoo lets celebrate with cake and Prosecco...got the invites out, wahoo lets celebrate with...yep probably some more cake and Prosecco... and so on it goes. Not to mention all the wine you'll be drinking during the decision making (see point 6) AND ain't nobody got time for the gym when planning a wedding!
Yes I did manage to slim into my dress without too much hassle but I wouldn't recommend it. Do you really need to give yourself something else to worry about?! Which leads me on to my last point...
10. Enjoy it! Yes your wedding day is an important day but if you've got the groom then you're pretty much there! So try not to stress too much, the little things don't matter as much as you think they do and remember you are lucky you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with!